Swinging Etiquette BE YOURSELF:
People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't
mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others, it means you should
"let your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in
swinging with someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be
polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a
friendship. . In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships
can change with people over time and through them you might meet
someone with whom you wish to be intimate. BE COURTEOUS:
The lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and
fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same
views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort
levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly
"hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find
that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions
aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish
to be treated. When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one (or
two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be) the same applies: be
polite, even if you don't think there's any potential for intimacy, you
could still have a great time anyways. Keep an open mind. CLEANLINESS:
If you really want to bring what could be an intimate evening to an
abrupt halt, DON'T SHOWER or BRUSH YOUR TEETH! Nothing is more of a
turn-off than body odor and offensive breath. In many ways swinging is
just like dating -- you still have to make yourself presentable, even
more so if you know the evening will involve sexual intimacy. It's
always good to carry a small accessory case with you containing: a
sample size mouth-wash, breath-mints/gum,/deodorant/ condoms (if your
prefer) and perfume/cologne. DON'T PUSH:
Remember, "no" means "no." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances
as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any
explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to
"yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match
perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt
feelings. If there's someone that you would like to swing with, let
them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it
may be. If they change their mind, they'll let you know. PRACTICE SAFE SEX:
Practicing safe sex is, of course, a person's choice. But it's a very
important choice -- this is the 21st Century after all. Anyone's
decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Anyone not willing
to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If
someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple
courtesy of respecting their comfort level ENJOY YOURSELF!!
Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your
sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on
as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of
humor. CARDINAL RULES OF SWINGING: - Good hygiene is NOT a turnoff |
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